LEAVING WAY TOO MANY BEHIND

This is the kind of thing my friend Cooper usually writes about, but foster care has been an obsession of mine for as long as I can remember.  Kids who, because of the incapacity of anyone in their families to care for them, get placed "in the system" and shuttled among foster homes - some group homes, some loving families and some just plain horrifying.  It's a disgrace.

Now, there's some particularly disturbing news.  When foster kids turn 18, they "age out" of the system.  Often they have nowhere to turn and end up on the streets, in jail or both.  They don't know how to get a job, open a bank account, balance a check book, fill out a resume or be a family.  As of this year, reports the Pew Charitable Trusts Kids Are Waiting campaign , the number of kids aging out of the system is up 41%.  Here's some of what they say:

The report, Time for Reform: Aging Out and On Their Own, found that although the total number of children in foster care has decreased, the number who "age out" of the system has grown by 41% since 1998. In total, more than 165,000 young people aged out of foster care between 1998 and 2005 – nearly 25,000 in 2005 alone.

"When children are removed from their homes because of abuse or neglect, we, through our government agencies, assume responsibility for their protection and care. We have failed these children if they 'age out' of foster care without a safe, permanent family they can count on," said Jim O'Hara, managing director, health and human services, The Pew Charitable Trusts.

"Every day we do not reform foster care, we fail 67 more young people who exit foster care completely on their own."

Think about that - 67 kids a day set loose with no moorings, nowhere to go for Thanksgiving, no apartment, job, phone, home address. 

I have no answers for this; I know there has been work to try to reform a foster care system which has been burdened by budget cuts and a surge of (truly) broken families.  But I don't see how we can continue to allow our supposedly "child centered" society to allow these kids to tumble into adulthood with no safety net at all.  Not much help to rant without suggestions -- I know that in LA for a while there was a group that held formal "graduations" and "proms" for kids aging out and that in some places there is some effort to help the kids learn how to live on their own before they have to -- it just seems we should have it on our radar.

Comments

[Lisa]

okay... that was three things.

I got carried away!!!

Lisa

[Lisa]

I aged out of foster care at age 16... I didn't know how to cook, how to budget, or how to drive.

But I was one of the lucky ones. I made it: www.sunshinegirlonarainyday.com

Here are two things that can be done:

1.) Know what is happening in the world/nation/your state/your city, and look for opportunities to be involved.

I try to keep up with the news myself. Here's a link to my blog: http://sunshinegirlonarainyday.blogspot.com/

Sometimes the news about foster care is pretty; sometimes it's ugly.

But I still want to know about it, because I can't help make a positive change if I cover my eyes to what I don't want to see.

2.) If you can't be a foster parent, why not be a mentor? Young people in foster care need mentors, especially as they prepare to age out of care.

3.) Join Foster Care Alumni of America: www.fostercarealumni.org

It's a relatively new national organization, committed to:

- connecting young people in and from foster care with the resources they need

-creating a community of alumni a

-using our expertise to positively transform the child welfare system.

Lisa
www.sunshinegirlonarainyday.com